There is beauty in stones thrown together randomly over who know how long. The lapidary motion of the waves works a slow and relentless friction, and produces over time a softness of line and tone out of all proportion to the hardness and resistance of the material. I've often thought a human mind can be just as intransigent to the changes and influences of the forces around us. Or that the human heart likewise is capable of being moulded and shaped if it is exposed to those same environmental forces and movements.
Some years ago I wrote several Haiku expressing the delight and satisfaction of looking closely at the cobbles on the beach, and simply wondering at the randomness of relentlessness; or, to put it otherwise, being amazed at the results of millions upon millions of accidental collisions of stone with stone. Inevitably I pondered the parallel, or contrast, with how human community works.
A friendship over time begins to shape and form attitudes, affections, opinions and thought. I think of several of my closest friends and know that long conversations, time spent in each other's company, outbursts of laughter and sadness shared, and all those gestures of kindness, gift and affection that turn a relationship into a sacrament, these have shaped and formed who I am. That same friendship will have survived disagreement, disappointment, lengths of time when one or other has struggled and hurt, or been worried and uncertain, but always, always, the shaping of human character and relationships by those encounters by which something of our love, respect and commitment rubs off on them, or they on us, and we are again nudged towards inner change.
Or so it seems to me. The Haiku is a form that I have come to use as a way of reducing the amount of words needed to distil truth. There is a discipline in the self-constraint that sharpens the truth, and therefore makes the point. At the same time, in writing Haiku, there is a recognition of the necessary limitations of words to convey our deep and complex selves to others, who are similarly deep and complex selves.
That yearning for communication, community and communion, is one of the mysteries of those friendships that endure and grow through the lengths of our days, with their tidal rhythms shaping and enhancing who we are becoming. Of such rich encounters, these words try to speak.
Remorseless friction,
waves lapidary tumbling, Tones in harmony
the beauty of grey. well rounded community
of shaped difference.
Cobbled together,
aeons of geology, Pebbles of friendship
placed by time and tide. in easy togetherness;
colour and contrast.
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